The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too. At that moment their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness. So they sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves. (Genesis 3:6-7)
The first story of sin and the intentional separation from God.
The Fall proceeds with the serpent, the fruit, and the husband that just stood by and watched his wife covet God’s wisdom and cross a boundary that they were commanded not to.
We often hear the story of Adam and Eve and we hear the focus to be on Eve. The one who ate the fruit.
But what was Adam’s role in all of it? Why did he stand by her side and watch her step across a line that they were told not to cross?
When I read this story, Adam’s complacency of his headship in the relationship rings clear and we should learn from it. We have a responsibility to our spouse to try to prevent the serpent from drawing their attention. From getting them to entertain the fruit.
This is not about applying unhealthy boundaries in our marriages but to call attention to the fact that we should always be alert that our spouse may be entertaining sin and we should not just stand back and watch it unfold or to allow them to continue to live within it.
The fruit that we could covet could taste like slander, gossip, and bitterness. Immorality, anger, and being unforgiving. It can be big but it could also be so small that it hides itself in the busyness of our lives. We don’t often think of these as sin but they are and they keep us from the relationship with God that he desires with us.
God called Adam and Eve to live in relationship with him and to not covet one thing. The fruit that looked so delicious.
Lord, please provide us the discernment and courage needed to have difficult conversations with our spouse if we need to discuss the sin that is taking place in our lives and causing us to feel the same shame as Adam and Eve. Give us the courage to face the serpent and decline the delicious fruit that will be offered to us and let us defeat our sins hand in hand with you and with each other.