Growing relationships in the weeds

weedsHave you ever planted a garden or maybe something you have tried to grow in your life. A tree, flowers, or maybe even a savings account. Didn’t all of those start out with some excitement of what was to come? You envisioned an end to your efforts. You saw the harvest but you weren’t thinking about the weeds. The means that may choke out your efforts and stunt the growth of your harvest.

Relationships are like a garden that has to be tended to. The ground needs to be tilled, the seed planted, and we need to water and fertilize to promote its growth. But then as we wait for the growth in anticipation, we see something else beginning to sprout. We see the weeds. The stuff in your relationships that take your eye off of the harvest that intended for you? The stuff that includes personality quirks, attitudes, differences, and personal beliefs.

“The farmer’s workers went to him and said, ‘Sir, the field where you planted that good seed is full of weeds! Where did they come from?’ “‘An enemy has done this!’ the farmer exclaimed. “‘Should we pull out the weeds?’ they asked. “‘No,’ he replied, ‘you’ll uproot the wheat if you do. – Matthew 13:27-29 27 

Jesus is using this parable to illustrate and urge followers to patiently wait for God’s involvement in the situation. He will tend to the garden and we need to be cautious that we don’t uproot the wheat which we often do.

Relationships start as a seed planted. Something brand new and without the elements of weather and drought challenging its existence and longevity. Without the weeds that soon begin to rise and fight to choke the wheat that is intended to grow. By nature we become the gardener and try to control the weeds usually by trying to change the other person. The other person created by God. But along the way our attempt to change them, control the relationship, or place expectations on the other prevents the harvest and we ultimately choose to walk away from the garden and walk away from the seed that was planted. On Sunday our pastor stated “we often miss the seed that God has given us by focusing on the harvest”.  A harvest manifested by our own expectations of how are relationships should function.

See, our harvest maybe different from what God plans to grow between ourselves and others. He maybe giving us that seed for some amazing things to happen but we get ourself in trouble by trying to be the gardener and pulling the weeds. Last night as we closed our Bible study, a local farmer shared something to ponder. He said, “if you let the seed and the weed grow together usually the plant will grow so large that it will shadow over the weed causing it to be eliminated altogether”.

God knows that the weeds will eventually be dealt with either by His interceding or the result of relationships growing so strong in the Kingdom that everything meaningless will be shadowed over and become powerless. So, if you are in a relationship right now that is challenging and your garden is overrun don’t forget that the harvest is coming. Don’t forget that the seed was given to you for a reason.

To grow.


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