Before we were married, my wife and I created commitments to each other and this verse was placed at the footer of the document. It was to remind us that no matter what our union will have Christ as the center and we are to fulfill our Godly commitment to each other. These commitments are framed and are placed on the mantle of our family room and still to this day the both of us will read them before our day begins. Silly maybe? Not to us. For this exercise helps to keep us centered on God, our relationship, and focus for our family.
It also helps to keep me centered on my responsibility of a Godly husband and to keep me focused on….
Loving my wife.
I had always heard about unconditional love. We all have right? God loves that way. If you have owned a pet such as a dog you experience it all the time whether you realize it or not. No matter what you do the animal returns and continues to love on you. As though they are born with the instinct that love is not a feeling but a choice. You can’t do anything that would stop the animal from loving you.
But how are we to love the woman that we have married?
The same way actually. Our love is to be patient and kind. Jealousy, pride, and demands must in control. It never gives up, loses faith, and is always hopeful. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7) We must control our selfish ways and function with her needs first so that you give her the chance to nurture the family and act as the helper she was created to be. As wives are to submit to their husbands, husbands are to love your wives and never treat them harshly. (Colossians 3:18-19)
Marriage is a covenant that is sacred and the relationship has so much power within it if you just follow the Word and its guidance. I do not write this as an expert but as one of God’s students that is trying to do all my homework so that my wife will feel loved and cherished everyday.
For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her